Gah if it wasn't for Bilby wanting to spend time with her dad, I would be cutting all contact. He needs a slap to (or as BD has pointed out, some professional help) realise the impact he has on her.

I would go as far as talking to Bilby & telling her that he is sick, or some other wording to help her understand that it is NOT her. That he has some problems planning etc.

We have known each other online for as long as our little girls have been here. Gigi, you are an amazing person who despite your own personal challenges have overcome so much & are providing Bilby with everything you can. You are the poster child of good mothers.

I sure hope you are able to get the right help and answers. I hope that Bilbys dad is able to get some help too.