I'm just finding it hard to compose diplomatic responses to posts about controlled crying. Of course it's up to each person how they choose to parent, but I can't help thinking "those poor babies!". I feel bad not saying anything, yet have no idea how to say something without it being emotional or perhaps offensive. It really pulls at my heartstrings to think of those crying babies And the fact that it's mentioned that they have to do the cc again at the next developmental stage should be telling them that it's not the baby manipulating them.. its the baby NEEDING them!

I can totally understand the aspect of tiredness, and of course having more than 1 child changes things dramatically. I'd be struggling too if DH didn't get up and settle Tallon now and then. But I don't think I could ever resort to just letting him cry.. especially when I've read that cc can actually make them cry more in the long run!

Every night when I'm putting Tallon to bed I tell him that mummy & daddy are just next door and he just needs to call out if he needs us, otherwise I'll see him in the morning when the sun shines through his window. Most of the time these days, he waits for the sunshine! LOL. Some nights he needs cuddles and some bb early in the morning.. but that's OK He's always had a reason for his cries, I don't believe he's smart enough yet to be squeezing out crocodile tears... heck.. he's only just worked out how to roll! LOL.

Anyway.. just felt I had to post something somewhere.. I hope this was an ok place to post it.. I figure here it shouldn't offend anyone.. coz if they're not into gentle methods they won't come here anyway!

Phew.. I feel better now.