Ivana_baby - the thing is, when people post, you can't see their faces...if people don't add a " " things can be taken the wrong way...just like when people correspond via text messaging, etc. It's fun and informative to post, but not the real world, (and I don't want that to be taken the wrong way! ) haha. I figure, what's the point in being upset over a computer that you can choose to turn on or off, over a forum that your not obligated to enter....so, I try and shrug things off now. I understand what your saying about wanting to give information from articles you read. Perhaps post them in a section of their own, and people can choose to read them if they wish. People who use cc have looked into the pros and cons, and most people who use cc do it properly and follow instinct, love their children to bits and want all the best for them, so it may come across as a bit 'soap box' like to try and sway ones viewpoint, when they have already done all the reading, and are looking for support in the decision they have made. As well as being very hard, as you know, parenting is also the most touchy subject. I try and take a very nautral point of view (have to for my chosen career path, anyway), as having a very strong view on someones parenting style, is sort of like having a strong view of their religion or political views....it's much too personal...and yes, at the end of the day, cc families are just as loving, happy and stable as families who don't use cc. We meet people every day in the flesh...whether it be family, friends, or people in the supermarket, who we chat to, admire as people, without judging, and every one of them has a different viewpoint on all sorts of things in life, but they are all still good people, and we respect their choices (and, most often, don't even know what their opinions on many things are). I admire you for not pushing your strong viewpoint to those who have a different viewpoint, of trying to support all ways of looking at things...there are many who would go into a post and abuse. I feel that maybe (and I may be wrong) you think that people who use cc need all those articles, that they have an ignorance about them. However, I think most people do a lot of research, ask their child health nurse, G.P, or the like about things, and, most of all, follow instinct to achieve what is best for their particular child. We can never walk in anothers shoes (unless we participate in wife-swap!), so it's just bad for our own health to worry about other peoples lives. If they are happy and loved, there is no point shortening your life by worrying about it.