who doesn't like to use controlled crying?

[Lulu]

Don't worry -what you are doing IS working, you just have to keep it up for a little longer and she will get it. You have got three days of the good stuff, a hiccup here and there is nothing because you may get 4 days running, then a hiccup, then 10 days etc etc.

Sometimes you have to change your own approach about it to save your own sanity. ie - WOO HOO 3 days! OR, my fav when I am poking my eyeballs back in, is to remember the times (in the OLDEN days) when I used to stumble home from the pub at a ridiculous hour and get up for work the next day on 4 hours sleep......I did it then, I can do it AGAIN!
Don't count the hours you haven't slept, but the ones you have....

This too shall pass, it WILL.

Just keep up the same routine, she will welcome it one day.

[~Belinda~]

Manta, hopefully it will pass.
Kellieem, thanks for your support. I'm thinking it's teething for sure.
Carley, my DD dislikes being wrapped but I could try it again as it's been a little while.
Lulu, thanks for the positive outlook, better to look at pros than cons I agree.

My DD is not interested in cot anymore through day but WILL sleep in our bed. I've put a shirt of mine in her cot, tried everything, have persisted and persisted but it's just not happening. She's only waking a couple of times per night which is ok, I seem to be catching up on sleep when she sleeps through the day. It's so hard to know if you are doing the right thing!! Let's hope she'll go back in her cot through the day soon without screaming and screaming. I actually can't settle her in cot by patting etc. I have to physically pick her up, she'll settle within 3 minutes and then I put her in again and she'll wake straight away, it's just a cycle.

[LuluHB]

It took my DD until about 10 months before I could put her into her bed wide awake. I admit to trying CC but other than the fact that it broke my heart, it just simply didn't work. My DD just screamed louder and longer until I couldn't stand it anymore. I cuddled her to sleep at night and put her down sound asleep - if I tried it any other way she screamed. Day sleeps were the same way and sometimes I just left her sleeping on me. Not sure what really changed but it did - I now put my DD down for her sleeps, tell her its time for bed, that Mummy and Daddy love her etc, and she just goes to sleep.

Like MR said, there will unfortunately always be something that comes along that upsets their routines - teething, growth spurts, colds, new babies - but its only a temporary thing. It certainly helped me to cope to know there was light at the end of the tunnel.

As inconvenient as my DD's sleep habits were, it has resulted in the most self assured, happy, secure little girl. Good luck.

[sushee]

Oh God yes Charlie went through that too. The whole "I'll sleep in your arms but don't you dare put me down" stage. And it does test your resolve because after a while all you want to do have her sleep for heaven's sake!

But it's true. It does not last forever, even though I bet it feels like forever right now.

[soon2be]

Controlled crying isn't for us. I've spoken with DP about it and we agree that it's not for us. Oscar is now a little over 6 months and sometimes he will go down when awake. Most of the time he likes a cuddle. And at night he's a bit of a fan of a quick nightcap before bed.

This week his routine has ompletely and utterly gone out the window. It's not surprising though. I'd be upset too if I had four top teeth coming through at once and had a head cold, which is what's happened. The nights when he's woken every 2 hours (three in a row) have been fun and the timing's been perfect as Ive had work to do (I consult).

I think if I'd gone down the CCing path this week then it would have been more horrendous. For the most part the little guy is really easy going and happy and I take that as indication that we've been doing the right thing.

We comfort Oscar when we need to, and when we need to give Oscar a little space we'll do so. As an example, I was shopping today and Oscar started crying. His voice splits into about three tones if he's just tired and needing sleep. That's what was happening. I monitored him in the pram but didn't pick him up. I would have if his cry changed. He was asleep in two minutes.Needless to say I got shot a few daggers by passers by. If I had have picked him up when he needed to be left alone he would have been over-stimulated and would have stayed awake and then become overtired.

You know your child best and will work out what is going to work for you.

[~Belinda~]

Thanks everyone, I have a print out of a new routine and it sounds great, will try that next and just be patient with my DD. It's gentle comforting, not controlled crying strategies. Thanks again for your help and reassurance that everything will be ok