I can relate to what you're going through, our first baby took 13 months to concieve which we sadly lost at 10 weeks. Our DD somehow miraculously concieved the month I came off the pill which totally surprised us. DS took 14 months to concieve.

So I know what you mean when you say it takes over your life... it does!

Advice? It's so hard to offer advice on this topic as even if you try not to think about it, its always in the back of your mind (of course you'd know this)

The only thing I'm going to suggest which I know has worked with a few of my friends & also with me when I concieved DS, is to give yourself a month or 2 "off". Dont TTC in that time frame. BD for the fun of BDing. Try not to have any HPT's laying around as that will definately keep TTC on your mind.

With DS I thought I had at least another week before I O'd as my cycles were incredibly long. So we BD'd (for fun) & for some reason didnt "try" that cycle, maybe because it was coming up to Chistmas? Anyway it turned out I O'd early & concieved. So that happened when I thought there was no way of it happening so I guess I wasn't as stressed at that time?

Believe me I know how hard it is to "not TTC" when you so desperatley want a baby, but as far as I can see thats the onl thing I can think of that has helped a few people.

Whatever happens I hope you get your BFP really soon, I can tell how much your truely want a baby of your own.

Big