thanks for the hugs ladies xxxx. we were trying for about 5 months (so not long compared to many others) DF was set on wanting a baby, never argued about BD'ing every 2 days and it feeling like a science experiment (), but after we had the m/c, he's scared of pregnancy. we were very narrow minded, and thought hey - once you fall pregnant, 9 months later you have a baby. we never knew how common m/c were, and how worrying the whole process can be, until i joined BB, and started googling everything.

i do agree with you little_O, there never is a perfect time for having a baby, there's always SOMETHING that could always make you delay it. DF and i aren't drinkers/smokers/clubbers, we're home bodies, unless we fancy a nice dinner out down the beach, or movies.

it's just hard to know