just wanting to be utd again

[Counting Days]

our choice when to start was a lot easier

no pills and we never used condoms (can't stand them)

I had the iud removed in June no going back it forth the decision was made, now we are just trying to get pregnant that was driving me crazy. First time was so easy but not this time round.

[Papillon]

counting days.. man yours was an easy decision hey! lol goodluck with the ttc!

Lisa, hows things?

Me, well.... we have huge progress.. im so excited ... we are going to try next cycle.. but here is a catch to make it fun! LOL i should be getting my next af on the 16th of dec, so will have me fertile around new years eve.. we are going to try and restrict any DTD un manned, until new years eve and then go nuts on new years eve. See if we can fall from jyust one day/niht of dtd lol silly but exciting! hahahaha

[Anila]

Wow MissyMooMoo, thats great news i will keep my fingers crossed for you.

Well me...
I asked hubby why he just doesnt say that we are ttc, he says because we are not.

We are how ever not officially ttc now and officially ttc in april.

He told me to stop over thinking everything and just go with the flow, one day he might be protected the next he may not, and as we are not officially ttc till april i should just go with the flow, when i told him that it is still messing with my head he said that it shouldn't, he told me to still chart when af arrives and when we dtd etc..

So although its still messing with my head in my opion, i will say quietly on the side that we are ttc, but that hubby for some reason wont admit it.

MissyMooMoo i agree with the pp about hubby having the power play, he is so well aware that this is something that i want so bad and even though he wants it also he is the only one that can give it to my, thus having the power in his hands.

[Danielle]

Oh my god Lisa! I just read through all of the posts, that must be driving you utterly nuts! I dont know if I could just go with the flow,a nd I can see how it messing with your head, I hope you's are officially ttc before april then... we were meant to wait until april until hubby ended up rotten blind drunk the other night once again sex with no protection, no phase about it, no phase about it the next day and no regrets so it leaves me going wtf??? but oh well what will be will be, but he seems a bit worried to come near me now, and the unprotected sex was my 3rd day before ovulation was due so we might have a good chance.

Still havnt found the answer to why we need anymore babies girls! haha I was hoping you's could fill me in on that one, I wanted more than 3 but 3 will be my limit with c sections each time from how big my babies heads are litlle tubby bums.

how are we all going in the ttc department? sounds like we have alot of persuading to do men dont seem to warm to the idea of new babies as quick as women, maybe all us ladies in here just really have a love for babies and thats why we end up with more... I hate seeing mine grow up! I think t hats why I go back for more

good luck girls! who knows if im utd now geez it was perfect timing and all too.

[queenbee]

what is with april? my DP also said we can try in april next year! mum-of-five, what is it like being a mum to 5 kids? i swore i only wanted one child, that was a month ago! then 2 weeks ago, everything changed. i want another one. my DD is growing so quickly and becoming easier to look after.

[Arimeh]

Haha must be something in the waters cos we might be trying earlier than June next year too.. lol... dunno about april though - already got a january baby... too darn hot for another one!!!!!

Mum of 5 - maybe he does really want to be TTC.. but is worried that it might take a while - so if he doesn't invest much emotionally in it, maybe he can pretend not to be upset if it takes a few cycles IYKWIM? Sounds like how a man might think anyway!! lol

[Danielle]

I agree with Arimeh about that one, cause I am a woman and I am even thinking like that too a certain extent to try and stop myself being disappointed and you know how unemotional men like to be . well just to inform you ladies we dtd last night no protection and my hubby said if ya get pregnant you get pregnant, and I said I really cant see how it could be a bad thing, and he said "no of course it wont be". I think my hubby wants ttc now but like yours Lisa he wont actually say it, he is like me he reeeeeally want another now but know its not the best time so oh well we will see what has happened, we've dtd twice without protection right before im due to ovulate so we will see.

[New Dawn]

well I dont know how you are coping with all TTC stuff I think if BHL did that to me it would drive me nuts....

We are TTC is April as that is when we will be moved and back up in Cairns BHL actully said we could TTC in Feb but I have my baby sisters wedding at the end of March so dont really want to be UTD for that as I am always so sick and sleepy I wouldnt have any fun...

I am always so amazied at all you BB ladies who have all the really small gaps I couldnt cope.... I am begining to feel like I am the only one on BB with larger gaps

Just remember that TTC in April can make a Christmas baby... We take ages to get UTD so I dont expect to be UTD anytime before oct/nov 09, so I will have a even lager gap this time 4 yrs if all goes to plan....

Best of luck to you all and even more luck for those of you who are TTC but arnt really yet hope it doesnt send you bonkers

[Amie]

Well me...
I asked hubby why he just doesnt say that we are ttc, he says because we are not.

We are how ever not officially ttc now and officially ttc in april.

He told me to stop over thinking everything and just go with the flow, one day he might be protected the next he may not, and as we are not officially ttc till april i should just go with the flow, when i told him that it is still messing with my head he said that it shouldn't, he told me to still chart when af arrives and when we dtd etc..

Just noticed this thread and thought I'd add my

I don't necessarily think your DH is playing some kind of power game. It sounds more to me like he just wants to avoid the pressure, and consequent possible disappointment, of TTC each month. I know that every r'ship is different and obviously I don't know you or your DH, but I can see how men might feel pressured when "DTD" becomes "TTC", YKWIM? Not that it takes away the pleasure or fun of it, just that it has a little extra weight (and wait!) to it. He probably also knows that there'll be a tense few days waiting to see if AF arrives and doesn't want you to be disappointed.

Maybe when he says that he wants to go with the flow, he really means just that.

One other question, when you have asked him whether you are TTC or not, have you told him why it's important to you? Sometimes it helps to break things right down and that way both of you can see the reasons for each other's thoughts, not just the thoughts themselves.

Good luck with your TTC/going with the flow

[Counting Days]

yes decision was easy the getting pregnant not so easy

we started acupunture, last night was my first session also having herbs, I feel like I might start bouncing soon taking 40 tablets a day.

As long as it all helps

[Papillon]

Oh Sarah, good way of looking at Lisa's DH! I actually think that is very possible!

Either way, your chances are getting better by the minute... ey Lisa Im sure we will be getting a big announcement from you soon enough!

lol

[queenbee]

I don't necessarily think your DH is playing some kind of power game. It sounds more to me like he just wants to avoid the pressure, and consequent possible disappointment, of TTC each month. I know that every r'ship is different and obviously I don't know you or your DH, but I can see how men might feel pressured when "DTD" becomes "TTC", YKWIM? Not that it takes away the pleasure or fun of it, just that it has a little extra weight (and wait!) to it. He probably also knows that there'll be a tense few days waiting to see if AF arrives and doesn't want you to be disappointed.

I never thought of it that way Sarah. My DP was also very annoyed with me pressuring him to DTD in April last year, became a chore at times, luckily we fell straight away! Men are strange that way aren't they? I think my DP said something like "I'm not a science experiment!" FUNNY

Next year, I am going with the flow me thinks...

[Danielle]

well ladies thats all Im doing here is going with the flow cause im the one who doesnt wanna be disappointed so it is possible men are like that too i guess, after all they do have feelings too well... dont they? lol

so if i conceived this cycle im hoping to know before chrissy so i know if i can enjoy my glass of wine or two. how early do you think ladies that it would show up on a test? hmmm....

arent we getting a nice little group of girls in here? this thread seems to be going on and ona nd keeps growing bigger has anyone else noticed too?

have we all got our xmas's planned??

[Anila]

mum-of-five, what is it like being a mum to 5 kids? .

I wont lie...i do pull my hair out at times when they fight or all talk at once, but then the days that they say i love you and draw a piccy of you at kindy and all the kisses and hugs and listening to them sing a song on the radio, it just makes me melt on the inside, to me it is worth it, its worth every single minute of my life, i love my kids.

Mum of 5 - maybe he does really want to be TTC.. but is worried that it might take a while - so if he doesn't invest much emotionally in it, maybe he can pretend not to be upset if it takes a few cycles IYKWIM? Sounds like how a man might think anyway!! lol

I was starting to think that way as well, if he does not admit that we are ttc, when i get my af, it wont be a big disapointment to him, he loves getting me pregnant and he gets excited seeing 2 lines on a stick, just as much as i do.

I don't necessarily think your DH is playing some kind of power game. It sounds more to me like he just wants to avoid the pressure, and consequent possible disappointment, of TTC each month. I know that every r'ship is different and obviously I don't know you or your DH, but I can see how men might feel pressured when "DTD" becomes "TTC", YKWIM? Not that it takes away the pleasure or fun of it, just that it has a little extra weight (and wait!) to it. He probably also knows that there'll be a tense few days waiting to see if AF arrives and doesn't want you to be disappointed.

Maybe when he says that he wants to go with the flow, he really means just that.

One other question, when you have asked him whether you are TTC or not, have you told him why it's important to you? Sometimes it helps to break things right down and that way both of you can see the reasons for each other's thoughts, not just the thoughts themselves.

Good luck with your TTC/going with the flow

I also agree with what you have said, he knows how important this is to me, so i dont think he wants to intentionally mess with my head. And i do know that ttc can be very stressfull and he does feel pressured sometimes.

arent we getting a nice little group of girls in here? this thread seems to be going on and ona nd keeps growing bigger has anyone else noticed too?

have we all got our xmas's planned??

I was just thinking that its so nice to have you ladies to discuss this with, i cant really talk to my girlfriends and my sister has her own stuff to deal with, so thankyou to my new bb friends, i feel less like banging my head on the wall and more like going with the flow.


So all that being said.....We dtd again this morning, i was to tired to participate, lol, he said ill just put a condom on, well i just rolled over and pretended to go to sleep, so he says, forget it and did it with out one.
Im just going to go with the flow and try not to stress, and see what happens.
Merry xmas to everyone.
Watch this space.............

[Danielle]

me too Lisa, I hve no one to talk to about wanting another bubby so badly and if I should or not given 2 c sections and last one being only 7 months ago,and the bigger thing contibuting to the no baby now factor is hubbys family so they are a no no to talk to about anything, they would be so judgmental as my MIL has been begging me for no more grand kids just get and I get tired of hearing "oh you have the pigeon pair now you have no need to go back for more" pffft! Like thats meant to make everything pretty and peachy instead of your own personal wants and wishes.
I ams o sure your gonna be utd in no time how do you do it with 5 kids already? I've always wanted a large crazy family but cant from c sections now it really sucks but ive had no choice in having them really.

My life is good with 2, but Im sure it would feel like a fuller family like me, dad and the kids, instead of just feeling like me, dad, lilly, and Ryley IYKWIM. which im sure you ladies do. So thats why im happy we have this little BB group going here now, cause we all have the motherly instinctive thing going on with wanting more gorgeous babies... and anyways who says we need a reason? so maybe we should all stop looking for one and follow our hearts and what we truly want out of life, cause lord knows we only live once.

Do we have any exciting interesting things yet in here???? any early maybe signs???? cant say theres much on the homefront for me right now, playing it all out by ear see what happens... and for me I am like whatever happens happens for now

We are having chrissy at our new house we move next week and if i know im preggers by then i wont be drinking, and by gosh hubbys mum will know then lol oh well gooooo with the floooow! as i too keep telling myself!

[Danielle]

just thought id drop another line this morning, just wondering when will a positive sign show on a test shouyldnt you wait until your period is due? I have been cranky and moody as anything no apparrent reason and Ive had really sharp lower tummy pain that I never get who knows if thats a pregnancy sign. Spent last night arguing with hubby about why i want another bub now so bad for we have alot going on here with our kids atm. Everythings been going bad for us since i was pregnant with Ryley and Lilly slipped on the tiles and broke her leg, then hubby crashed the new car, then Ryley stopped breathing from broncilitis and was hospitalised then Lilly got croup and spent time at hospital on o2 also, I got real sick with bronchitis and now they are doing sleep studies on Ryley and it shows his o2 levels drop to an abnormal level when he sleeps, he still has all his breathing problems, and Lilly is really unwell too they think it might be swelling of the kidneys, Ryleys got to go to Royal childrens brisbane hospital soon tobe more investigated while hes sleeping and Lilly has to go down Nambour hospital to see about her kidneys and everything and whats next with that, so I guess wanting another baby really wasnt on the cards for my hubby right now and I can see why, but for me its putting something good back in my life with everything going wrong at the moment, like where do i get something good out of all this, I wanted a happy change for not only me but for everyone, and DH broke down last night crying when I told him that and we dtd no protection again, so yeah theres so much going on here, but thanks for listening ladies thats my rant for the day anyhows, things will get better I know they will next year will be a better year for us I just know it will back to trying to get my 3 year old to pee in a cup again for pathology its so so hard.

thanks again just needed to get all of that out and now i feel 10kgs lighter for it

[Anila]

Hey danielle, i tried all day yesterday to log on to bb to read your post but it would not load for some reason,

any who, big hugs to you for all thats going on in your family atm, i know its hard to see light at the end of the tunnel, but it is there, and things will pick up for you. My fingers are crossed for you that you get a bright double line on a stick soon.

Things have not progressed over my way, although hubby had a job interview yesterday and is doing a trial run today. Fingers crossed that he likes it and it works out for him as that was a major reason for not ttc till april as he wanted to have a job, all the other kids were concieved while he was employed.
No more dtd since i last typed about it, but thats ok as it was to early in my cycle any way and no where near ovulation, im am a late ovulater, for me i ovulate aprox day 19. Although any thing can happen right ladies...hehe

I just thought, if i do get utd this month, i would be due the week before my sisters wedding, ahh.
Oh well...

Looking forward to seeing some real soon.

[Danielle]

heya girls I did a test yesterday and it showed a second very faint barley visible line. Just to report back on that one Im NOT pregnant stupid bloody dam test! I have done another one today its showing absolutely nothing, I had it set in my mind that I was cause thats what happened on my pregnancy test with my 2nd bub, it showed very feintly then it got darker and darker each day as my HCG levels increased, I guess not this time ladies. I have spent alot of the afternoon just crying my moods have been horrible lately. All I want now is just to be alone to think about if I even want to try anymore, hubby said to me this arvy "we get to move into our new house earlier, looks like your UTD too so things are really looking good for us now" thats why I wanted to be UTD put a little bit of happiness back into our lives after the past year and what we've all been through. But now I dont know what to do, DH is being so good about it he says hes happy either way, and he did get used to the idea as well that I could of been pregnant and it grew on him he also looked a li ttle disappointed this arvy when I did the second test.

Oh well it was only a negative reading, nothing stops here just because you might be sad or disappointed I better get my tired little girl into bed now. Thanks for listening .... again

hows everyone elses TTC efforts going? I havnt heard much in a little while... spill all....