mum-of-five, what is it like being a mum to 5 kids? .
I wont lie...i do pull my hair out at times when they fight or all talk at once, but then the days that they say i love you and draw a piccy of you at kindy and all the kisses and hugs and listening to them sing a song on the radio, it just makes me melt on the inside, to me it is worth it, its worth every single minute of my life, i love my kids.

Mum of 5 - maybe he does really want to be TTC.. but is worried that it might take a while - so if he doesn't invest much emotionally in it, maybe he can pretend not to be upset if it takes a few cycles IYKWIM? Sounds like how a man might think anyway!! lol
I was starting to think that way as well, if he does not admit that we are ttc, when i get my af, it wont be a big disapointment to him, he loves getting me pregnant and he gets excited seeing 2 lines on a stick, just as much as i do.


I don't necessarily think your DH is playing some kind of power game. It sounds more to me like he just wants to avoid the pressure, and consequent possible disappointment, of TTC each month. I know that every r'ship is different and obviously I don't know you or your DH, but I can see how men might feel pressured when "DTD" becomes "TTC", YKWIM? Not that it takes away the pleasure or fun of it, just that it has a little extra weight (and wait!) to it. He probably also knows that there'll be a tense few days waiting to see if AF arrives and doesn't want you to be disappointed.

Maybe when he says that he wants to go with the flow, he really means just that.

One other question, when you have asked him whether you are TTC or not, have you told him why it's important to you? Sometimes it helps to break things right down and that way both of you can see the reasons for each other's thoughts, not just the thoughts themselves.

Good luck with your TTC/going with the flow
I also agree with what you have said, he knows how important this is to me, so i dont think he wants to intentionally mess with my head. And i do know that ttc can be very stressfull and he does feel pressured sometimes.


arent we getting a nice little group of girls in here? this thread seems to be going on and ona nd keeps growing bigger has anyone else noticed too?

have we all got our xmas's planned??
I was just thinking that its so nice to have you ladies to discuss this with, i cant really talk to my girlfriends and my sister has her own stuff to deal with, so thankyou to my new bb friends, i feel less like banging my head on the wall and more like going with the flow.


So all that being said.....We dtd again this morning, i was to tired to participate, lol, he said ill just put a condom on, well i just rolled over and pretended to go to sleep, so he says, forget it and did it with out one.
Im just going to go with the flow and try not to stress, and see what happens.
Merry xmas to everyone.
Watch this space.............