Hugest of hugs to you.

i am against termination but would support you in your decision to terminate.

There are several things to talk to the Dr about....

There are also so many factors all that leave you with worry and stress on your mind so i think you need to go with the 'least' stressful and hurtful one.

DNA test 'if' you were to go ahead with one....when's the earliest they could do it and how long till the results would come back so you can work out if you still have time to terminate.

If that pans out is there anyway you could speak to the 'other' guy, i dont know but if as you said you both regret it you could maybe approach him and say "I dont want to get into the ins and outs but im pregnant im pretty sure its DH's but i want to be positive can you provide a DNA sample? If it is yours i will terminate and we can move on, if its DH's then what happened doesn't matter (so to speak) and we can still move on" i don't know the other guy so dont know how he would take it but just an idea of how to approach it seeing as he already knows it happened your not really telling anyone.

Also if you continue with a termination will you be able to hide it from hubby? as in the appointment and your feelings afterwards

Lastly as someone else suggested i really think speaking to an outside party like a counsellor would be good for you. Despite the mistake you made you seem to have your head screwed on and are trying to look at this from every angel and talking to someone may help you come to terms with whatever you decide as it wont be easy on you either way. I just don't want your emotions over the turmoil get in the way of a clear decision for you xoxoxo hugest of hugs please feel free to contact me if you want to chat xoxo