Good luck to you Kate! I totally see where you're coming from and respect your decision and the fact that you've put yourself out there in this forum.

I also think it's worth while either reading everything you can get your hands on, or having some counselling about what led to the mistake of sleeping with someone else. I say that from a completely non-judgemental space -it happens to plenty of people! In my experience infidelity usually suggests that there is a deeper issue or something unresolved.

I hope you are feeling alright and have a clear space in which to think about the future and your next steps.

I've said it before, I'll say it again - Bellybelly is fantastic! What a great bunch of incredibly supportive women!