I am a bit of a clutter queen and loathe cleaning. DH is worse than me. So there is a real struggle here to get this house tidy and organised. Personally I have found the flitting thing does not work. I find I need to keep focused. So that means I have to stop myself and commit to the room or to a time frame (10 minutes). I just chuck things into the hall or into a basket for what does not belong there. Saying that though I do struggle when putting away clothes with needing to tidy up the wardrobe first. If I am in a flitting mood, then I try to focus making sure I keep on returning to the area that needs the most work eg washing up, then hang out clothes, back to kitchen wipe benches, straighten up couch, sweep kitchen floor. I also find being on the phone gets me moving and I don't even notice that I am cleaning.

Big I know how hard it is to deal with someone who wont deal with their own mess. He tends to blame me, needs me to do something first or that my 1 box is stopping him It is bit like the hole in bucket, I need him to tidy first (like the shed) and he won't touch it until I move my stuff, but I can't my put stuff anywhere until he tidies.