Kaz - thanks for sharing that, and Lady Z as well. I have been feeling a bit mean for the way that my post may have come across, it was written on a day when we were fresh from an "incident", so touched a bit of a defensive nerve.

I do think it's important to acknowledge that it's difficult for both sides - there would be very few parents who wouldn't wouldn't be worried (and feel a little helpless) if their child was known as "the biter/hitter" etc, just as much as those who are the "Bitees" And as toddlers, they're not the most rational of creatures, plus they move like lightening.

I guess it's just the challenge of finding the best way through all of it for everyone - whilst I don't want to see bad behaviour being tacitly allowed because carers are unable to actively intervene, I certainly don't want to see kids ostracised for their behaviours. I've found some of the stuff that Ausgirl posted eye-opening, and makes me wish that there was a bit more common sense in the world. Also makes me think of the old saying "those who can, do, those who can't teach", which is so so wrong when applied to teachers, but maybe could be changed to "those who can't, go into admin bureaucracy, masquerading as political correctness..."