I read this book called 'Total Forgiveness' and it is about the ability to forgive other people - sometimes without telling them that they have hurt you. Sometimes, I think you do need to tell people when they have hurt you and it is appropriate to, but sometimes, it can be important to find a way to forgive someone without confronting them. The book says that this is the power to move on with your life.

I thought it made some interesting points about forgiveness that are relevant here. The first thing it said which I found really interesting is that often when we are hurt by someone, we feel the need to 'punish' them. Often the only way we have to punish them is to talk about them to other people and damage other people's opinion of them. I found this confronting because I know that I do this. If I feel angry at someone, I often find myself wanting everyone else to feel the same way about them. It is a real challenge to let it go.

It also went on to say that the choice to forgive is a daily choice. We don't just choose to forgive someone and that be it. Often we have to keep making the choice over and over again. Everytime those feelings start to creep back in, we need to decide to forgive all over again and move on.

I found this incredibly difficult to do but have found it very empowering and at the same time very freeing. I think there are times when we need to confront the issue, but I also think there are times when we need to let something go and learn to forgive. The only closure that we will ever have in some situations, is the closure we allow ourselves when we forgive someone else (and in some ways, it is more true when they don't deserve forgiveness).