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Ten Popular Irrational Beliefs
1. I must be loved, or at least liked, and approved by every significant person I meet.
2. I must be completely competent, make no mistakes, and achieve in every possible way, if I am to be worthwhile.
3. Some people are bad, wicked, or evil and they should be blamed and punished for this.
4. It is dreadful, nearly the end of the world when things are not how I would like them to be.
5. Human unhappiness, including mine, is caused by factors outside of my control, so little is can be done about it.
6. If something might be dangerous, unpleasant, or frightening, I should worry about it a great deal.
7. It is easier to put off something difficult or unpleasant than it is to face up to it.
8. I need someone stronger than myself to depend on.
9. My problem(s) were caused by event(s) in my past, and that is why I have my problem(s) now.
10. I should be very upset by other people?s problems and difficulties

Ten Rational Ideas
1. I want to be loved or liked and approved by some of the people in my life and I know I may feel disappointed or lonely when that doesn?t happen, but, I can cope with those feelings and I can take constructive steps to make and keep better relationships.
2. I want to do some things well most of the time, but, like everyone else, I will occasionally fail or make a mistake. Then I may feel bad, but, I can handle that and I can take constructive steps to do better next time.
3. It is sad that most of us do some bad things from time to time, and some people do a lot of bad things, but, making myself upset won?t change that.
4. It is disappointing, sometimes very disappointing, when things are not how I would like them to be, but, I can cope with that. Usually I can take constructive steps to make thing more how I would like them to be.
5. My problem(s) may be influenced by factors outside of me or my control, but, my thoughts and actions also influence my problem(s) and they are under my control.
6. Worry about something that might go wrong won?t strop it from happening; it just makes me unhappy now. I can take constructive steps to prepare for possible problems, and that is as much as anyone can do. So I won?t dwell on the future now.
7. Facing difficult situations or problems may make me feel bad at the time, but I can cope with that. Putting off problems does not make them any easier - it just gives me longer to worry about them.
8. It is good to get support and assistance from others when I want it, but, the only person I really need to rely on is myself.
9. My problem(s) may have started in some past event(s), but, what keeps them going now are my thoughts and actions, and they are under my control.
10. It is sad to see other people in trouble, but, I do not help them by making myself miserable; sometimes I can take constructive steps to help them.

Dr. Bob Montgomery