It's totally fine to ask that question Inanna - I count myself as a very open person too. I actually wrote that post when I felt that I had opened up to my oldest friends about how difficult I think my life has been in the last few years and particularly in the last few months with a very difficult pregnancy. Their responses, or lack thereof, made me feel like a whinging loser so I guess the risk from my perspective was feeling worse. Not only was I dealing with a rough trot anyway but also their reactions which I found quite hurtful.

However, I actually opened up to them again last week and told them exactly that and we are now back on track. But it took a lot of courage to do that because I was afraid of making the situation worse and feeling a bigger fool, I suppose. The risk was "they already think I'm a whinger, now I'm going to whinge that they THINK I'm a whinger which kind of proves their point." Of course, they didn't react that way. I guess it's just a lesson that whatever you're feeling is never foolish but I still think there's a risk involved in opening up. That's OK, every decision in life has some kind of risk so I'm not saying that's a bad thing, just a fact.