I unfortunately have now been left worried about posting for fear of having my motives questioned, so I shall keep this short and sweet.

When I speak in a community sense, it is because i have the opportunity to make comment without specifying anyone in particular. There may be a couple of people I could be specifically hoping get to read it, but I don't want them to feel targeted, so I speak in a much broader sense.

The other thing I want to say, is I read this Mans Handbook joke once, and there was this line in it that I think really represents most of the posters on this forum.
"If something I have said can be taken two ways, and one hurts you and makes you angry - I meant it the other way".

I do not think anyone here at all wants to make anyone feel judged. I think that you are all awesome people with the best of intentions trying to share compassion and support. I just feel that words on a screen do not convey that as well as they should. I always assume that you are speaking from the heart.

I sometimes seem harsh because I have been on the internet for a long time and have developed an extremely thick skin. It can make me look cold. Its not that at all. I will be honest with you.

Arcadia - Loved your post. I agree. In a general discussion topic in a general discussion forum, it is upsetting that I now feel like I need permission to post my feelings. I do have them too! They are just as important to me!