I'll start with this a few years back.

When we found out in 2004 i was pg and we told MIL a few hours later she was emailing saying she would be out for the birth even after already saying she was going to come for Kimberley's birthday in the Feb. Sadly we went on to loss that baby and nothing more was said about coming until i fell pregnant with Alex.
Again she said FIL thought it was a good idea for her to come out when the baby is born to help out with Kimberley and normal day to day things.
So we said okay she can come but i had a bad feeling about it all. Alex was due 2nd June and she was due to arrive 4th she's already told me to hold on till she arrived. Well my body had other ideas and Alex was born by emergancy c-section on 11th May 2005.
When she arrived she did nothing to help other than drive me places. I had to do all the cooking, cleaning, washing and asking what she wanted to do that day.
All she would do is sit around the house and when she wasn't inside she was outside smoking. I couldn't rest when i wanted as she was always there watching what i was doing. By the time the two weeks was up i was so glad to see her go back to the UK.

We told MIL at the weekend about this baby and they were planning on coming out at Christmas for SIL 21st birthday but they haven't booked yet. I may just waiting for an email to say she will be out at the end of January when this baby is born.

I want to say NO and DH agrees with me when i say it but not sure if he will follow through and say NO to her. After last time i don't think i will be able to cope i will have 3 kids under the age of 4 and Kimberley will be starting Kindy so that is a special time for us also.

Do you think i am being mean in wanting to say NO ?
Part of me thinks i am but the other part knows what will happen if they come. As far as i know it might be MIL and SIL coming.