Fiona that is great that you where able to put your foot down and say NO. Sorry to hear that they where no help the first time round.

Ally that is a shame your sister didn't help you out when DS was born.

After talking to FIL last week i now know they won't be able to afford to come which is great to know as if she says she is going to then i will say wait till you have sorted yoursleves out first and come at Christmas. Also I'm not happy with her anyway at the moment after telling FIL about us not knowing if the baby has downs we have not heard from her at all and that was over a week ago we told them.