Cailin i guess i was scared to ask her to do things. I don't think it was just needing the help it was also to do with me entertaining her and aksing what she wanted to do everyday. It happend when she came over the first Christmas we was here she was just the same then. No help and i had to ask what she wanted to do with her days.

I think when she was here just after Alex was born i thought she would have spent time with her MIL but nope not unless i went with her. I just needed my space and some sleep.

I told Paul today no way is she coming when this baby is born even more so now i am high risk of having a down syndrome baby. I think we need that time to deal with it just between us and not family members that will only be here for a few weeks. Also we told FIL on Saturday what was going on and i would have thought a quick email from her to say that she is thinking of us would have been nice.