I totally understand where you are coming from LMS my XDH was exactly the same.
I was the one with the higher sex drive and every time I approached him I got knocked back...he only wanted to DTD when he initiated it...once it was 6 weeks in between and not from lack of trying on my part.
It definitely left me feeling rejected, unwanted and unloved. I really feel it had quite a large impact on our relationship.
I did look after myself...but I am not a make-up kind of girl (and He preferred that)
He always said it wasn't me...he was just to lazy.
It made me feel like 'just' the mother of his children, cook, house keeper...not a woman who has needs and desires IYKWIM.