My sis is 2y4m younger than me. I didn't start liking her until I was 15.
My bro is 5 years younger than me, and I have adored him since before he was born. He was like a living doll to me (like Bath says) So I think if it suits you, go ahead and wait the 5 years.
Or get a bfp in the meantime! Good luck!
Oh wow! Thanks so much for all of the replies everyone. Your opinions are very much appreciated and it certainly has given me some food for thought!
I am inclined to agree with the overall consensus that whether siblings get on isn't so much about age gaps as it is about personality and the family environment in which they are raised. Especially when they are older, but I can see how small children with a close gap are much more likely to play happily together.
I do still need to consider my age though ie: being 35ish when TTC again if I wait til after I study.
What has bought this all to the fore for me is that i received a phonecall from the University midwifery course convenor yesterday out of the blue. And the more she told me about the course structure etc etc (it's a new degree for this particular uni) the more perfect it sounds. I also love the aspect of being able to do the latter part of my training and possibly then be employed by the Gold Coasts brand new first class University hospital which is due to open in 2011/12.
if I am successful in gaining a place in the first year offer round it will be very very hard to turn it down.
My bro is 5 yrs older than me. As kids.. it was nothing but tormenting me. When I was mid-late teens we hung out together quite well. I didn't expect to go out with his friends or anything (mainly coz they were over 18 and were out at bands and pubs & stuff) but we got on well and hung out at home together. As adults we've drifted apart but nothing to do with age.
My kids are 19mths apart. I can totally see how a big age gap would be easier parenting wise LOL. But they do play together and I *hope* they grow out of the current rivalry. I'm thinking perhaps it's just a big brother thing... they're all mean to their little sisters! LOL.
I'm sure you'll get whatever age gap you end up with to work
I dont think that the age difference is an issue...
But - dont shoot me for my comments, but something that you need to consider... which of these two points (below) you feel the most strongly about.
If you studied and then TTC and couldnt, would you regret it?
If you didnt study and fell pg and never ended up studing due to family committments would you regret it?
the world is full of what if's - you need to decide what is most important to you now and act on that. if its studdy - go for it, if its children - go for that
My mum and her sister are 7 years apart and very close, her brother is 18mo younger than her but they don't get along as well. I don't think the age gap is the main issue - personality and family play a big part.
FWIW - I concieved our DD2 when I was 36 and we got the BFP first try so it's not necessarily going to be hard.
Mara - im in the same position as you - but i have decided that its my turn now! my turn to do what i want to do! I have put my own life, needs and wants behind everyone elses, and now its time i start thinking about doing what i want to do!
I say go for it - 5-6yrs between bubs will be fine! just think u will have one in school and be able to spend alot of time with the new one, like u have done with ur 1st one! and u will have a big little helper to help mummy with the baby!
As a mum and a wife we always think about everyone else 1st - but there must come a time when we start thinking about ourselves!!!!
Apply for Uni and see how that goes! its a start!
If your heart is pointing you to study, then go with that hun. There is no doubt it will be a lot easier with only the one child. I guess it comes down to what you want more. Me, I am kinda hoping I can do it all lol! Will see next year how that works out for me.
BTW I get along with all my siblings - there is 8 years between me and my oldest sister, 4 years between me and my next oldest sister and 2 years between me and my little bro. As children, me and my bro were like peas in a pod - we were great mates, always playing together. As we got older though, that changed and now it's me and my sisters who are great mates. Of course I love my bro but I am closer to my sisters now that we are all grown up.
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