Ugh, I hate these comments, I hear it all the time. Not necessarily comments about it being tough on me working full time with kids, because it is and it's not what I really want - I know there are mothers in your position PN, who have made a decision with their partner to work full time and it works for them. That's fantastic, but it's not what works for me so I guess when I hear that it must be tough on me, it doesn't get to me because I kind of agree, for my situation.
But, DH finishes work at 3, and we decided that even though overtime is readily available to him, we would prefer him to pick up the kids at 3 rather than wait for me to get them when I finish - could be 6pm some nights. Apparently, he's under my thumb, and he's soft. What kind of man would actively choose time with his children over earning more money, or going to the pub?! And doing it so his wife doesn't have to sacrifice her work hours? Nonsense, that must be one ball-breaking wife!

I hate that he gets these comments, rather than being told what a wonderful father and husband he is. (Although that's another thing altogether, he's not automatically Dad of the Year just because he does his share of parenting.)