I'm reading The Wife Drought by Annabel Crabb at the moment and it explores this kind of issue and the reason behind that question in-depth. I'm really enjoying it, anyone else reading it?
I have it on reserve a the library - I am now 2 of 40 so should get it soon. It sounds very interesting - although I did think in some of her interviews about the book it was a bit odd to then go on about how good she was at baking and making cookies for cake stalls - which although she may be I did think the fact she needed to mention it is due to some of the stereotypes that we should be trying to dismiss.