Well, in my head if we were going to have children, we'd have a heap of them. Then we had DD1, and it was pretty traumatic, still is. We still had DD2 despite our fears and she's been lovely. BUT since she turned 20 months, we decided that we were finished. Its lovely to be finished... to be over the first 12 months.
We always said we would have 2 so we can afford to keep our lifestyle and give the children the opportunity, financially, to do whatever they want when it comes to school and other activities. we had discussed that I would have my tubes tied when I had baby #2 as I will be having a ceaser..
But now the time has come that we are going to ob and this is the time we need to discuss with him if I were to have the procedure, we can't go through with it. Although it is unlikely we will have more children unless our finances change, we don't want a procedure to make that decision for us. We have decided that one of us will get the snip when I am 35 whether or not we have more children.
It may seem selfish to others that I don't want more children after 35, and that we want to keep our lifestyle, but we will be happy with our decision that we make together. Also even if we don't plan another child, we will not be disappointed or resentful if one (or more) happen to come along.
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