Yes NikiW you're right, that was the post that upset me and as much as I thought I had made this conscious decision to nourish my child, rather than let her starve just because she was getting a little breast milk, my heart absolutely aches that it did not work out. Perhaps it was a careless post but it really, really hurt.
That's why I understand this is in response to a post.

I don't think though MG that support is always being told what you want to hear... For me, I don't want to hear that I am making the right choice... No one can know that but me. I think we (this is a sociological view point) as a society look for validation for our choices. I think that is outsourcing our responsibility.

This cannot with authenticity happen from an outside source. We need to make our choices and own them. Own the crappy feelings, own the insecurities...

I don't think it is helpful or wise to blindly support decisions that others make. As such I would never say: "you did the right thing by breast feeding" - for I don't know that mother might be on drugs that are not conducive, may smoke, may drink excessively etc etc...

I can and do and will say that breastmilk is the best milk for babies most of the time. I will also say that breastfeeding can and often is hard work at the beginning. Without dedication & a belief that it is the best thing (and sometimes the only thing) for babies women will often submit to the VERY loud voice of family, media and colloquial "evidence"... My job is, has and always will be to always support the truth that it is the best way.

We are a consumer driven culture. If the boobies don't work we are told to reach for the tin - that all that matters is the baby is fed. I personally reject that as a truth. I don't think that's the only important thing. This is not the thread to go into that. But I am happy to speak more freely in a thread designed specifically for that!

As a breastfeeding mother I resent the oft said line that only a woman who has tried to BF and had to resort to a tin can know the trials.

I challenge that view with my own personal experiences.

Again - this is not the thread for that.