Opening threads to have a go at a person in another thread is hurtful - the very thing that was touted as the reason for this thread!
I haven't actually interpreted this thread as being designed to have a go at a particular person. More that the OP is crying out for support in their decision. That THEY feel unsupported in FFing. I, as a poster in this thread, feel that those who have replied have not tried to make this into a "them and us" type thread but to support the OP by validating the OP's feelings, sharing their own experiences in how they have perceived they have not been supported (or have been supported), and offering advice on how they have dealt with those feelings. But, that is my interpretation - it can be difficult to interpret the feelings, emotions, and motives behind the words on a screen.

I LOVE the reference to comparing hot dogs and bergan salad sandwhich! gotta work out how to drop that into a conversation with someone I know!