ppl posted whilst I slowly typed!

Do you know what I mean??? Anyone???

Yes I do! But support is about listening to someone and then helping them sort through their feelings. Not jumping up and saying "that's rubbish you feel that way. I'm right and you're wrong" (and no, I'm not saying anyone has said or implied that!!!!). For people to change their POV, beliefs, or to change, they need to be able to reach decisions for themselves. they need to look at ALL the facts, weigh it up, and then reach a conclusion. Sure, sometimes ppl still reach the wrong conclusion as I see it... but it could be the same conclusion as someone else. Which is why I agree with Nelle about seeking clarification Off the boards. Gives everyone a chance to breath!

Rouge - I didn't think that at all hon

Inanna - would that word be stupidity? 'cause if ppl had the same thoughts I do - it would fit snuggly in that category!