The majority of the mod team have at one point or another FF a child. So why would they judge you, or encourage other's to judge you... isn't that in turn judging themselves?
I did actually try to point that out earlier in the thread Rouge. And I didn't interpret the OP as being aimed as Mods.

Inanna, i agree support isn't about being told what someone perceives you want to hear - but about sharing experiences. About encouraging someone to talk about their feelings and work through them. To listen to someone when they have something they need to offload (constructively).

Please don't think I'm being argumentative or creating an us and them thread because that certainly isn't the case. Just trying to support the person who obviously feels the need to vent today.

And you're right Rouge - these threads have been a plenty over the years. I've certainly seen a great many in the 3 (?) years I've been here... and it is FRUSTRATING! But, at the end of the day, I see it as someone is struggling, has hit bursting point, and needs to get it out before they explode. Not that they are trying to be malicious. Just that they need to be supported in dealing with how they are feeling - the same way we support every other aspect of conception, pregnancy, birth, and parenting.

"But I really am sick of the witch hunt against BB by older members..." I have to say - I've only seen this happen once or twice (but it must happen more frequently from some of the posts in "From BellyBelly" type areas) and I too find that very disturbing. Especially since BB IS a caring and wonderful site. And haven't we all joined to research, support, and be supported? We may not all see eye to eye 100% of the time, but that would make us all boring! What would we discuss then?!

MG