Neither of us want to change our surnames again. We've both been down that road and are happy to be back to our maiden names. We both like having the sense of belonging to our families.
I didn't feel that way about my maiden name for quite a few years which was why I was happy to change it when I was 20. But that's a whole other story.
So the only compromise now is who's surname goes first
I think it should be mine, but only cos it comes first alphabetically
Same dads? I have to admit this is what I want. Somewhat for biological reasons, but also it means only having one other person involved in the family beyond the two mums. Also, when the kids are older they can go together to spend time with their dad.
Names, hmm. I want my surname to continue. I have positive associations with it.
I guess the options are: hyphens, partners name as a middle name, baby has bio mums name (would this make it easier with birth certificates etc)....gosh it's something to think about isn't it!
JORACH: Do you still need info about sites to search for donors?
Yes we still do. Jo my partner found one... but since I' ve started back at work I haven't been able to put as much time into donor search, so if you have any suggestions that would be great!
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