Cassius - that feeling deep in your heart about wanting a 2nd is the same for me. but although i want it, i'm not sure i can cope with it. i guess in time i might feel differently.

luey - DS was up every 2 hours last night (not quite as bad as hourly) so the thought of a)doing this all again and b)doing it with a toddler is very frightening! When I answer ppl saying that we probably (might??) not have another child I get so much criticism too. Mostly people saying that an only child is spoilt and that the won't be 'well rounded people' if they don't have siblings - there are many more factors that impact our developoment than whether or not we have siblings.

sweetpea- i totally understand about having trouble getting things done. DS wants my attention and my presence all the time so it's tricky to get to the loo, let alone cook dinner.

ll80 - i'm with you on the larger gap. i think it gives us time to focus on our bubs and give them the attention they need.

Liz - so true about the 9 months. i'm lucky that i have a cousin with a bub who's 9 months older than my DS. So i can look at him and think "could i manage a newborn and him?".

Thanks everyone. It's such a personal decision and I guess no matter what we choose, our bubs grow up to be happy, well-rounded people and we all live to tell the tale - for the most part anyway