Hey, you're scared to submit ... I'm a little scared to post! But here goes ...

Personally, I think happy baby = happy child ... generally. However, it's such a black/white statement, isn't it, when parenting is all colours of the spectrum (maybe more fuschia pink and acqua blue?). And there are always going to be exceptions (probably many) to the rule. As far as whose happiness takes precedence, I think mum/bub's happiness/angst kinda work in tandem, kwim?

I only know from experience that my happiness rubs off on DS, just as any crankiness/stress I'm showing also seems to rub off on him. But there've been plenty of times when all's right with my little world - and he's screaming his head off. Then again, there have been times when DS is happy as Larry and I'm stressing out. I guess we can only strive to be happy and have happy bubs - if that's the right way to put it. Maybe it's all "luck of the draw"

This raising children business isn't always easy - sometimes it's bloody hard work. And being a mum can be very rewarding, but it can also be frustrating, annoying etc. Hell, we're all human - so are our babies. I'm sure I'm not telling you anything you don't already know .

In summary - you know what's right for your children and for you. All we can do on this forum is offer support and advice (when it's asked for).

Great thread, by the way.

Andie xx