i've said to my MG in the past "a baby is for cuddleing, not for crying" all bar one other mum at my MG do CIO, two of them happily put their bubs in other bubs cots for a "sleep" one cried - as the bub you talked about it for about half an hour i was on the verge of tears and just rocked and cuddled my DS to sleep. the mothers at my MG know that in my house there is no CIO, they know i do baby led (bar solids due to DS's bad reflux ) they also know i co-sleep with my DS. i dont "hide" it im proud. my son is one of two babies who will sleep in arms/on their own with out tears, DS knows when he's tired and sleeps. as for shareing the books/articals go for it. i have. the worst she can do is say "no thanks"