whether i'd say anything would depend very much on the relationship i had with that particular friend.

for the most part though, i probably wouldn't bring it up & if i did, it wouldn't be then & there, if that makes sense?

i believe in gentle methods & that's what we use and i expect other people to respect our choice. i feel then, that if others choose to do things differently, then that is their perogative. i would take an opportunity, if it arose, to explain why we choose gentle methods and i would always hope that people had educated themselves on their parenting methods/choices before deciding on them. people do need to do what works for them & i don't expect gentle parenting to be everyone's preference even if i do think it's the better way.