it isnt your place , so i would let her do what she wants , my mil bought stuff that was so hideous i couldnt look at it .. but at the end of the day , we either accepted all the help/stuff she gave us .... the baby doesnt give a **** whats on its walls .... i would circle things in catalouges ...

you and dp have to talk about it and then talk to mil .. ask if she had any plans to buy big items .. then if she says yes then show her what you would like ...

but as for the little things , when your looking after a newborn the thing that matters is her happiness and health ... and your well being too . i think bears will the last thing on your mind ...

when you move out , you can go crazy ... she is excited for you and bubs and just doing what she thinks is right ....