Hiya!

I was in the same boat...we had a whole floor at my IL's place and were very very grateful but in my situation my MIL just wouldnt listen! But before i came to this conclusion and starting going out every day to avoid her here is what i tried:

* Educating her- re; nappy change, wrapping, why honey doesnt go on the dummy, that babies do cry, feeding, playtime etc..
* I went shopping with her to show her what we liked for DD..ie clothing that were low fire danger were a better choice
* I took DD downstairs to her or invited her upstairs and even though the advice drove me insane, i stood my ground..
* I talked to her about how WE wanted to raise DD and stuck to my guns
* I asked DH to speak to his mum on several occasions too.
and finally....
*We moved out

It is hard but i learnt that they are only trying to do what is best and what they think is best is what they practiced with their children so many years ago. My MIL keeps saying how she cared for DH and how nothing is wrong with him. I never said there was but i choose a different way using my motherly instincts, DH's input, Doctors advice, current research and using our beliefs and morals. She doesnt like a lot of our choices and she lets us know but at the end of the day DD is our child.
Best of luck