Oh girl - I hear you on the independence thing - and yes, my Dp is a mumma's boy too. I can't stand it sometimes.

My dad has spolit my teenager ROTTEN, just rotten. It could be worse though, and at the end of the say she is a good kid (and very independent) - she just goes to poppy when she wants an ipod - totally fine by me he he!

Grandys can go nuts with the money all they want. Your kids will run straight to the ones that sit down with them and read a book.....

I'm glad your MIL isn't a nutter tho - they really suck!

Good luck!