Retrogal- it's ok I promise, it's the same topic anyway, so not really a hijack.
what about a psychologist? Which is what the doc would most likely give a referral for anyway, I dont know hun, you cant really help people who wont help themselves.
how does he feel towards your bub? Would giving it (for lack of a better word) a better life be an incentive, does he realise how expensive a baby/ child can be?

Please dont feel obligated to answer my million questions, I'm just trying to think of ways you could motivate him
He loves the baby and cant wait to meet her.
Not too sure about a psychologist.. He wont even go to the doctor.. which irritates me... i get where your coming from about not being able to help someone who wont help themselves...

He has said to me he "will" (be the word) get a job after he has finished paying off the stuff he needs to and also said it was better to pay it off while being a on centrelink to which i agreed but he HAS to get a job next year. I've told him that i intend to BF for as long as bubs wants and i will be at home with bubs. He just basically wants to go straight to the top where work is concerned and I've told him to be more involved with his job agency to which he replies they havent helped me for the last so often years so why would they start. Grr i keep saying to him maybe if they knew your situation then maybe they can help but HE needs to put more effort in aswell. Its just not up to the job agency to find him a job.. It takes two.. Just like making a baby..
I Actually told him when we found out we were expecting that if he doesnt have a job come october then i would leave him.. Thinking that would make him realise he needs to get a job.. but No it didnt & i was serious about it, he just doesnt see it.
I dont think he knows how much his life is going to change once bubs is here.. He really doesnt get it.. Me on the other hand I know ill have sleepless nights etc..