The only advice I can offer you, is that make sure you are happy before you go about pleasing any one else.

If you need to set up before you have kids, do that. But sometimes the best made plans don't always fall into place. In the end it is up to you and your lovely sounding boyfriend... you aren't asking anyone else to have this baby or to look after it.... make sure you guys are happy before you worry about others.

That is just my opinon by the way!!