hi i was a mum at 22 ... i love my son sooooo much but i do feel like im stuck.. my dh is on a great wage but if you earn money you spend money... I had no idea what a baby would be like, he has rocked my world both ways iykwim. I would def wait till your married, i was 8 wks pg when i got married and from there on in there was no us time just baby baby baby...our relationship has changed in a big way... and men can feel trapped . you sound like my coz who really wanted a baby since she was 15... was with this guy who seemed like it was going to last .... she is now 3 months pg (same age as you) and the father took off and has'nt spoken to her since. and I do think that a JOB is important to keep you sane but a career is'nt that important...

Just remember if you choose to have a baby be prepared for the downs (the ups too). I i lost a bub when i was 20 and was so depressed about it and wasnt prepared. then when i fell pg the 2nd time i wasnt prepared for the pre natal depression and post natal depression. and my dh changing into a father (sometimes i just want us back).

also people tend to look down on young mums and its sad, coz we can be great at it...but if you have your bub soon don't forget yourself, if u put your all into the bub you may resent not having a life... sometimes i just wanna go out with my childless mates and blow all my money on a top, but i cant.

but i wouldnt trade nixon for the world... this is just my story, you sound like your mind is made up. best of luck