Interesting reading everyones experiences. I was def a young mum for my first, I was 16 when I fell pregnant and turned 17 3 months before he was born. Gained a stepson the same year, at 19 we had our 3rd and at 20 I had our 4th... I was still under 21 so still part of the young womens clinic at hospital and everyone was always godsmacked when I'd say I'm 20 with 4.

Now 23 with #5 on the way I definitely dont feel young anymore until I'm next to 30-40 yr olds at school who have children in my boys classes at school, then I feel like a baby! At hospital all the staff know me and have thought its quite amusing its taken my 4th baby for me to be 'too old' for the young womens clinic!

I had the opposite problem to some with my young mum groups.. at 16 I did young parent antenatal classes and everyone esle in the group was 20-22, all had partners and all planned pregnancys... I felt so young and alone and was judged so badly because I was so much younger, single and unplanned pregnancy. I totally resented that they could be in the group for young mums when to me they seemed to old and like they had it all together.

Too look back now I do think under 21 is young to have a first baby but over 21 doesnt seem so young. I really wouldnt class anyone my age having there first as a young mum, younger than average maybe but not young iykwim