IVF sceptic? Looking to hear from others with similar experiences.

[satya]

I'm thinking you are talking from an "unexplained infertility" perspective. When they give you that diagnosis you will never know what is causing it. I understand how frustrating that is as I've been there. There are some undergoing IVF who do get the answers you are asking, but those with unexplained infertility will not. If everything seems to be fine it's damn near impossible to treat. I've read that people with this diagnosis don't normally do so well with IVF. Generally they do better with lifestyle changes, diet changes or alternative therapies.

I did not do IVF but I've had it recommended to me twice.

The first time it was after 3 years of TTC. All the testing showed no issues, clomid didn't work & the next suggestion by the FS was IVF. We weren't interested for a number of reasons. We conceived naturally about 3 months later but miscarried.

The second time was in a new relationship with 9 months of TTC & I was over 40 and had just had another loss. My GP did lots of tests then I saw a gyno. On the very first visit he said that my ONLY chance of a successful pregnancy was to have IVF. Yes.... my ONLY chance. He was wrong. My son is now a year old & he was conceived naturally & no drugs were ever used to sustain the pregnancy.

I think it is a money making business. I think that many people are sent in that direction far too quickly. I agree that the success rates for live births are not good. I don't believe they split them into people with diagnosed fertility issues (such as PCOS, endo, male factors etc) and those with unexplained infertility - well at least back in the days when I researched it they certainly didn't. I think they should.