thanks for the advice and support. We just had a nother blow over somthing really silly but this time DH put his foot down and she didnt like it at all he raised his finger to motion to silence her while he talk and she through his hand back with her own you can just imagine what came next she still gives attitude like shes the boss i dont get it nothing works i dont have a leg to stand on nothing no defence. Tomorrow arvo she has netball training and her father will be taking her so i guess shell have a whinge about everything that has gone on thats her right i guess but i have to deal with his crap then it never ends shes tight with her father that upsets me as i have done all the hard work hes been the good time dad this parenting stuff suxs