No I don't think your decision was bizarre. I would have done the same.

I think I may have made you feel bad and i didn't mean to so let me re explain. I am a "little" bit of a germaphobe but only when I know there are children sick, I won't go near anyone if they've had gastro (like I'm talking at least 5 days) in case incubation has already started with other family members. If its cold season and I know the flu is going round I'm more careful and if someone said they might have CP I'd definitely stay away. But if I'm at a playdate, (and I know mothers group is more than that) I'd think that it would be more "safe" that people should respect my boundaries with bugs, and be thoughtful when other kids are sick. I wouldn't want my child to be playing in an environment where toys were continually off limits or another child couldn't share his toys purely because I'd be worried about the impact on social interaction and sharing, because its easy for children (even small children) to pick up anxieties. So I probably (and this is a bit horrible) wouldn't go to a mothers group if I knew those parents didn't respect my germ policy LOL! I mean even at school when we have P&F meetings we let each other know that our kids are sniffly and its up to them if they still think its ok to attend. But like Lea said, if there was one or two children with weak immunities etc then of course I would be more vigilant. I just know I wouldn't want to go to a mothers group if every second I was panicking over what toys my child was playing with because the other children had a tendency to be sick or because I worried about upsetting other parents. Believe me I do understand where you are coming from and whilst I said I thought it was odd that those requests be made, but I wouldn't say *you* are odd And I get just as annoyed when kids destroy toys, or parents have toys out that aren't appropriate for play (just for looking) because explaining that to a small child is difficult (not impossible just difficult) and of course when something becomes off limits its instantly wanted even more LOL! I hope I made sense Sorry if I made you feel uncomfortable... I too can be cr@p at explaining myself sometimes LOL!