A child incubating Chicken Pox wasn't kept away from other babies? That is just wrong and irresponsible (I wouldn't mind if DS was older with him getting this, but not as a baby). I would never take a baby who could be seriously ill or possibly incubating something nasty to any group, let alone a pool party. I don't mind taking DS somewhere with a runny nose, but a "proper" illness is something else. (Heck, I even stayed away from BB because of illness... well, that and not being able to see.)

I don't mind sharing dip and cups with close family. I don't mind DS sharing drool because, if it's his friends, they stick their hands in each other's mouths and noses anyway. I know, it's so pleasant. And when babies kiss each other, that's mega drooly. So a little bit of drool on a toy isn't going to be too bad in the grand scheme of things.