Hi All,
I to am a donor recipient. My story started when i met my DH 10yrs ago, he was divorced like me and had two beautiful children 1girl now 17 and one boy now 25. He had had a vasectomy when his daughter was born thinking no more children, Then divorced and along came me! After visiting doctors was told that to long for vasc to be reversed as it probably would not work. DH really did not want any more kids but realised how important it was for me after years of discussion and 7yrs after we met my biol clock just went wacko you need a baby I was 38yrs old - so off we trott to IVF and told we could still try using icsi. So we tried and tried and tried with my eggs and his sperm - yippie pregnant then 10weeks later we lost our little one. So we are told (i am 41 by now) that my eggs are probably too old so try donor eggs! So i met a girl after moving to a country town told her my story and immediatly she puts her hand up for donor - she had finished her family and was more than happy to do so - we have 2 tries first try fails second try we are pregnant yippie but unfortunately we loose this one too.
I am crushed thinking this is the end, but I'm sooooo stubborn I ask more questions and the doctor in Sydney in charge of my health says its probably the sperm as it was never really good to begin with - WHAT I WANT TO SCREAM - you all told me it was my eggs are too old but then looking at it again they decide its a sperm problem as even though I did not produce alot of eggs they all fertilised and all survived for implantation. DH not too keen on donor sperm but never had a problem with donor eggs???? So more discussions more sole searching a little arguing and then DH says what if we ask his brother - brilliant idea. So now we are just waiting till June as his sperm must sit in isolation for 6mths - good news though his sperm is great - good little swimmers. When they retreived sperm from my husband we only ever got 4straws - but with his brother and the cup method we go 12 heathly straws and have been tested for just about everything. So fingers crossed this will work - if not we are on a waiting list for donor embyros so i guess i have ticked just about every box there is - so if nothing else i know i have tried everything in my power to have the family we have longed for. I wish everyone luck on the donor quest - IVF is one thing but then you through donors in it does become a bit more emotionally and mentally challenging - 1st you have to get over the fact that the baby is not 100% biol yours but you know thats okay cause blood does not necessarily make a family LOVE DOES!