hi i am carla, im 22 and my dp is 25. we have just recently had our first cycle and on EPU day i was sitting in the waiting room while dp had his TESA and was called in to say no sperm has been found and that they recommend finding a doner. dp is taking it realy hard and cant make up his mind. he wants children but cant seem to accept he has no sperm. do anyone have this trouble, if so, how did you deal with it. i love him and am commited to him (we get married in march 08) but i cant see myself as not being a mum. Worst of all he wont talk to me about it. instead he goes to work (he is a miner), manages to get blind rotton drunk and talks to one of the guys out there. im glad he is talking but i really want to be included because his decision will affect the rest of my life. any suggestions