I think it's very common for people going through fertility issues to change their mind along the way (more likely to be the man). Mostly though, they change their mind again. I think it's the stress of all the appointments, the disappointments and the financial cost involved that does it. Counselling probably is a good idea. By the way I was told that I had to head to IVF (mostly because of my age 41 and m/c's) but I conceived this one without any assistance at all. You just never know what's ahead of you in this TTC game.