i read your thread last night, and again tonight, and have been trying to find a way to put my thoughts into words - i'm not usually like that, but hey, we all have bad days!! i think the other ladies have had some great advice - and yay - i think they booted my thought processes again - yay!!!

anyway, enough waffle. when i read your opening post a couple of things sprung to mind. Firstly, there are sooo many reasons why your DP may have decided he doesn't want to TTC at this stage. financial is a big one. feeling his manhood has been threatened is another. not being able to save you from going through physically and emotionally painful treatment is yet another

but from your comment

To be honest he is quite an angry person and gets annoyed very easily
i had to wonder whether maybe this isn't about anything more than him having a need for control of a situation, and the IVF is taking that away. i'll openly admit that i struggle a lot of the time with the IVF because i KNOW that i feel a need to be in control of my life, and for this aspect of it, i have absolutely no control at all. it's horrible when you are usually someone who has power over your own destiny, as it is, to have that taken away. with natural conception, you can basically decide when to DTD, and still have a degree of control over what you do - when you move to IVF, it's a case of "perform on demand" for your DP, and that can really undermine you if you have that control freak within. i'm not saying this IS the case with your DP - a lot of the other suggestions are more than valid - i would suggest that you try to get to the bottom of the reasoning before cancelling completely or moving forward - you really need to be on the same page for this

good luck with whatever you both decide

BG