hmm... I must say I am surprised at the high number of those who do take personal insult to the concept of using IVF to conceive twins. The question doesn't take into account any of the circumstances leading to such a choice

I am blessed to have 3 healthy naturally convceived children and have had 4 pregnancies. Twins and triplets run rife in my family (and twins in my hubby's family)and I have to be honest - I desperately would love a multiple birth - furthermore I have 3 boys and if I was allowed I would have IVF to have a much wanted girl. Before anyone gets upset - I wouldn't change my boys for the world and I love them more than life itself - my desire for a girl is a completely seperate issue to being grateful for what I have; but the link I am drawing here, is (in my opinion) who has the right to decide who's needs are higher? Certainly if I choose IVF and my choice were to push back an infertile couple on a list, then I personally wouldn't go ahead. That is my personal choice - but surely anyone who wants children has a right to try an act on that dream?

What I find insulting is other people thinking they can tell someone what is right and wrong - each person needs to make their own choices based on their own experiences; in my experience someone with children of both genders is very lucky; in my sister's experience (who is having trouble ttc), I am very lucky. Everyone's personal experience is just that - their own and I think no one else has the right to judge. To feel insulted by someone's else's choice?? I think it is more fruitful to look at why their choice affects you in the way it does.

But in saying all this - if the choice is just a choice of fashion... be it up to the decider to have a clean conscience!