Emotional Strain from DH Perspective

[VelociRaptor]

Hi Numa,

No that is great advice and what it is I am trying to follow at the moment. I am starting to try a few new things (Like join the SES) to see if I can find some other things I am interested in. I have a lot of loving family and friends (unfortunately they are my DW family and mutual friends) that I am able to talk to or be around when I am feeling low. I have decided to step back and give her all the space she needs, but also be around or nearby is she needs me. I am going to wait for her to want to talk about what is going on instead of bringing it up all the time myself.

Once again thanks for all the advice offered and I will keep you updated of how things go. Hopefully one day in the near future I can actually post that we have gone back to trying to have a baby and also post that we are having a baby

VR

[Acacia]

Oh VR, I hope to hear that you're back to TTC and having a baby in the future too, and that your DW is able to feel better soon. It's so difficult for you both.

I really hope in the space that your DW needs that she is able to turn to you. And perhaps the space away from TTC for now turns out to be the best thing for your relationship!

SES sounds like a great pursuit - I know that emergency service people form tight-knit, close communities, and often have great friendships with one another so it's sounds like just the thing.

Good luck with everything, and I really hope and look forward to hearing of better times ahead for you. You've got a great perspective on everything, despite the difficulty of it all, and I'm sure it will lead things right for you

Miss C

[VelociRaptor]

Well an update and it is probably not what you guys want to hear, but my DW and myself have ended up separating about 6 weeks ago. It appears as though she fell in love with someone else during this tough stage in her life which has left me feeling completely shattered and lost.

I have moved into our Investment property down south and starting to come to terms with living on my own for the first time in my life. I still want to have children and the fact that I am only 30 should leave me plenty of time. It doesn't feel like it now, but I am sure I will find a new partner when the time is right and start building a new life.

Sorry to post the bad news guys, but I thought I should let you know where I am at, that I am still alive, struggling a bit emotionally but am trying to stay positive. Once again, thanks for all the great advice and support offered in this post and hopefully in a year or 2 I can be posting a message that my new partner (when I find one) and I are expecting our first.

Cheers

VR

[slyder]

Sorry to hear that mate. Sounds like you are handling it as well as possible and have a positive outlook for the future. The time and energy you have spent in trying to get things back on track is a credit to you. Good luck.

[fionas]

VR - I'm sorry to hear that. Your DW sounds very confused and it sounds like you've behaved very honourably throughout which is something to be proud of.

Be gentle with yourself. Break-ups are always difficult.

I wish you all the very best and lots of love, happiness and tiny feet when the time is right.

[Kitt3n]

oh hun, that just sucks.

best of luck finding the love of your life and being able to share an amazing TTC journey with her.

[farmgirl77]

Hi VR,
I was really sorry to read how this TTC journey ended for you. I hope that you are able to take some time and space for yourself to help with the healing process, and that you find a wonderful person to share your next TTC journey with. Good luck.
FG